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Straight and Gay News: Get Your Man to Share His Fantasies With You

There are a boatload of gals and guys who wonder one of the ultimate sexual questions of all time: How do we get our guys to not only be comfortable telling us their sexual fantasies, but also how do we help them enjoy doing it? With a little imagination and yes, some courage at first, taking a few steady steps in the right direction will help your guy come out of his shell and talk.

First of all, since relationships are all about sharing, you will have to be willing to tell him your fantasies if you expect him to tell you what is on his mind. This can be a bit tricky; while some guys love the shock of suddenly hearing some down and dirty talk, others may not take the shock so well. Start out slowly. If your guy in general is somewhat shy and reserved, it may take him a while to join in the conversation in bed. He will give you clues as you talk about how he is taking the talking. As you are whispering details of your fantasies, keep one ear out to see if he reacts with grunts, arousing moans, and especially faster breathing. A sure sign that he is getting in to the whole fantasy thing is if you hear him say Oh, yea that is HOT! Then its pretty set that he digs your imagination.

Something that many experts recommend to get the fantasy ball rolling is to let your man know what your fantasy is, then slowly introduce him to the idea by asking things like would you like that? or does that turn you on too? and you may be surprised. Dont get upset if you seem stuck in the Question and Answer stage of fantasy talk; it may not take long before your partner surprises you one night with his answer. You can gradually move from the yes or no questions to questions like what would you do with her? or would you do that with him too? and theres no telling where it might go from there. Many people it seems have fantasies about having a threesome, being tied up or restrained, or having sex in a public or risky place. One of these scenarios might be a good place to begin.

If you have tried easing your guy into the world of fantasy talk and he just doesnt seem to be getting into it, you may want to reassure him that just because you two talk about some of the things while the heat is on in bed, that doesnt mean that you would actually do those things if you had the chance. There may be a chance that he is restraining from sharing fantasies because he is leery about hearing you with another person or people. Sometimes a little reassurance is all that is needed to turn your guy into a partner who goes from not talking to talking to acting out fantasies in the bedroom.

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